I’m a male so I don’t know if I’m allowed to use this expression now or not but “Me Too”. It was one of the reasons I had to quit working. Often I had to be very alert and ready to act to diffuse a confrontation using words, not force, then when you can’t find the words, ohh the frustration. In trying to get the ‘right words’ the ‘wrong words’ often spring to mind much easier and on occasions even get said DOH.
The brain fog just gets so heavy sometimes it fogs everything including my sensitivity gene. Forget ‘diplomatic’, I went ‘Direct’ and in doing so I offended. It wasn’t that I was trying to offend but by the time I’d said it and then my mind processed it, it was too late, those words were out there and rather than diffuse the situation I’d just added 1/2 a ton of dynamite to the mix AND lit the fuse. BOOM!!!
I knew what select language I should use, but in stumbling to find the words I felt foolish and lacked confidence. Some people saw that as an opportunity to take advantage of which only added to my feeling of foolishness and I seemed to be going around in circles. I had to get out of that environment and ended up resigning my position. And that’s frustrating in itself.
So yea, I’ve been there too.
Merl from the Modsupport Team